How to Deal with Anger? Myths and Facts

“Frequent anger brings bad luck.”

Master Choa Kok Sui

Anger is a negative lower emotion that gets lodged in the Solar Plexus chakra, affecting it in the long run. Uncontrolled anger creates holes and cracks in the protective web of the Solar Plexus chakra, making it susceptible to the influence of anger elementals and energy parasites. Once affected by negative thought forms and elementals, anger becomes uncontrolled. This in the long run not only affects our relationships, career and life in general but also can lead to severe health problems such as heart ailments, hypertension, arthritis and ulcer. Anger like other emotions, comes with physiological and biological changes such as increased heart rate, blood pressure and increased levels of energy hormones, adrenaline, and noradrenaline.

Therefore it is highly important to know how to deal with anger and learn techniques to get control over it.

Anger can be caused by both external and internal factors, such as a coworker, traffic jam, missed flight, worrying, disappointment or fear. Negative memories of traumatic or enraging events can also trigger anger. The automatic natural reaction in such cases is to respond aggressively. Anger is in fact a natural adaptive response to threats that help us gain power to fight and to defend ourselves. A certain amount of anger is therefore necessary for survival, but if it gets uncontrolled it becomes a threat to one’s life. In order to know how to deal with anger, first we need know what anger is and the myths and facts about it.

Myths are basically incorrect accepted theories that often mislead people and misguide them on how to deal with anger.

MYTH:

Anger cannot be controlled. No one can help me overcome it.

FACT:

It is true that when anger is bursting out it is very difficult to control it and stay calm, but it is possible to learn how to deal with anger in general to avoid similar repeated experiences. We can’t always control the situation we are in or how other people make us feel, but we can control how to express our anger and lower feelings. We can express our anger and dissatisfaction without being physically, verbally and mentally abusive.

Even if someone is trying to provoke us, we always have a choice how to respond. This just needs training. We can train our mind and emotions how to behave using various techniques and methods. The key is to be willing to take proper action.

MYTH:

Anger brings me respect and helps me get what I want.

FACT:

The real power does not come from hurting and bullying people, it comes from a good will power and managing skills. If we let our anger out, people might be afraid of us and treat us with respect in front, but they won’t respect us all the time. In fact they might talk negative at our back. However if we learn how to deal with anger and communicate with others firmly but at the same time with respect, people will listen to us more and try to accommodate our needs in a better way. Anger might get us where we want to go in a short term, but it is not a long term winning strategy.

MYTH:

Anger should not be kept inside. It is healthy to let it out.

FACT:

This is a very dangerous myth, said by psychologists. Some people use this theory to justify hurting others. Researches have found that “letting anger go” actually escalates it and doesn’t help at all.

Although it is not healthy to hold anger in, it is not healthy also to just let it vent. When we hold our anger in, it has destructive effects on our Back Solar Plexus chakra, which in the long run can cause back pain, severe kidney problems, arthritis and high blood pressure. When we let our anger out in an uncontrolled way, it affects our Front Solar Plexus chakra and in the long run can cause liver ailments, asthma, ulcer, heart ailments and gallstones. So the key is not to hold onto it or burst it out, but to regulate it. It is necessary to find out what triggers our anger and then develop strategies to keep them from tripping us over the edge.

There are techniques that can show us how to deal with anger including Pranic Psychotherapy, Blue Triangle and Whiteboard technique. Regular application of Pranic Psychotherapy can help to remove the negative thought forms and elementals of anger from our system and activate our Heart chakra to experience a sense of peace and calmness throughout the day.

MYTH:

Anger is in my character. I cannot and should not change it.

FACT:

Character is not something that is permanent and can be changed. Chakras basically affect our physical and psychological health. They affect our character as well. By working on our chakras and making them balanced and healthy, and by learning how to deal with anger and put conscious effort to control it, we can improve our character.

The purpose of our life is basically to get better and better, to evolve and transcend. So if our weakness is anger, we can overcome it and become a better person by working on it. If we just sit and wait for our anger to get healed, without taking proper actions, we are wasting our time.

To improve our character, we first need to be aware of our strengths and weaknesses and have the willingness to change and improve; and then take proper actions to reach there.

MYTH:

Anger Management techniques are all about suppressing anger.

FACT:

Anger management procedures consider anger as a normal lower emotion, which happens for everyone. The aim is basically not to suppress it but to help individuals learn how to deal with anger.

Anger Management is all about getting aware of the signs of anger and our underlying feelings and needs which contribute to it. If we learn how to deal with anger and our feelings, expectations and needs, we can control our temper and express our feelings in a constructive way.

Your Turn…

What do you have to add to this list? Are there any examples you have in mind that falls under the same category? Is there any myth or improper attitude towards anger that you have encountered?

Let us know in the comments!