“Forgiveness is not a matter of who is right or wrong. It is a matter of doing the right thing.”
Master Choa Kok Sui
Talking about forgiveness and its benefits, we also need to discuss how to forgive!
There are many people out there that know about forgiveness, but not all know how to forgive! It is not always easy to forgive and forget and move on, especially if the effects of the unfavorable event are highly destructive to a person’s life, marriage or family. Small or big, petty or massive, the key is to know how to forgive and to be able to release the anger and pain from our system to get free; otherwise we may dry up in the long run…
There are in fact techniques that can show us how to forgive and can help us deal with the unfavorable experiences and continue living and loving.
How to Forgive? Method 1
Increase the Love
Often we focus so much on the problems and differences that we forget most of the good times we have had with our friends, family members and colleagues. So instead of feeling happy and grateful, we often feel unsatisfied.
Most of the time, we get hurt by our loved-ones and the people who are close to us rather than strangers, and the reason is our close interactions with them.
“When two people interact closely, there is friction. The lubricant is Love – in the form of Loving Thoughts, Loving Feelings, Loving Words and Loving Actions.”
Master Choa Kok Sui
It means that frictions, disagreements and arguments are bound to happen in any relationship. How to forgive?! Increase the love!
When there is love, there will be more openness, more sacrifice and more forgiveness.
Think about the way you treat your children when they make mistakes. You do not get much angry, because you love them so much. So if we extend this love towards all of our family members, friends and colleagues, we will not get too angry and irritated when they make mistakes and the reason is the loving energy that is working as lubricant.
“You can’t forgive without loving.”
How to Forgive? Method 2
Put Yourself in the Other Person’s Shoes
We need to think realistically. We are all human beings and none of us is perfect!
So we all make mistakes and in fact mistakes are part of life and evolution. Don’t make a big fuss when you or others make mistakes. Just learn how to forgive!
Without mistakes how can we learn our lessons and grow?! Mistakes are bound to happen but what is important is to learn from them and not to make the same mistake over and over again.
So anytime you get hurt or an argument happens before reacting immediately, wait for a moment and think about the situation from various perspectives. Try to analyze why the person is behaving such, what could be his problems, why you feel angry and what would be the correct action and how to forgive.
Try to put yourself in the other person’s shoes.
Often people who keep hurting others are weak internally and have many problems to deal with. Try to sympathize with them.
And understand that reacting in the midst of an argument won’t work since everyone is operating from the emotional level. Explaining and trying to convince your actions do not work. What you need to do is to calm the situation down and wait for the proper time to discuss about the matter when you are both calm and alert. Once you analyzed the unfavorable experience and learned the lessons, forget about it and move on!
How to Forgive? Method 3
Release the Anger
Sometimes despite thinking, analyzing and convincing yourself to understand, forgive and forget the past event, you still feel angry inside. How to forgive when you still feel angry?! Without releasing the anger and all the negative emotions, forgiveness will not be complete.
“You have the freedom to wallow in mud or to Love again, to Live and to be Happy!”
Master Choa Kok Sui
To release the feeling of hurt or anger there are techniques available.
One of the techniques is to write a letter to the offender or a letter simply describing your situation and feelings and tear it up or burn it once it is over.
In the process of writing the letter, your anger and resentment will be released in the form of words; by burning the letter afterwards you basically cleansing or purifying your system from such energies.
The effect is feeling lighter, happier and relieved.
How to Forgive? Method 4
Use the Whiteboard Technique
Sometimes some relationships are so difficult that practicing forgiveness seems very difficult. So how to forgive in such instances?!
These difficult relationships are often the result of karmic entanglements and are carried over from past lives to the current life.
“Anger and Hatred bind people together! When you Hate someone, it creates an Energy Link with the person. You become chained to the person and your Soul becomes entangled with that person. If you want to be free, you must Forgive people.”
Master Choa Kok Sui
Such people should be forgiven consciously over and over again until there is no more anger and resentment toward them in you.
There are many simple techniques that can show us how to forgive in these situations like the Whiteboard Technique taught by Master Choa Kok Sui.
The Whiteboard Technique, which is part of the Pranic Psychotherapy Workshop, helps us recall and erase all the negative incidents in our life and replace them with positive ones. Once the scene and the event is erased from our memory and is replaced with a positive one, we will feel free from entanglement, anger and resentment and we can experience inner peace and happiness.
How to Forgive? Method 5
Practice Affirmation of Forgiveness
In order to have a harmonious and peaceful life we need to forgive and ask for forgiveness but the key is to forgive others before we ask for forgiveness.
Affirmation of Forgiveness is a very powerful technique, taught by Master Choa Kok Sui, that can help us forgive the people who have hurt us and release the negative energy links connecting us to them.
You can visualize the people who have hurt you one at a time and silently say a short affirmation to forgive them and ask for forgiveness. The whole process needs to be repeated several times for a number of days until there is no more anger and hatred toward them in you.
By practicing this simple yet effective technique, after a while you will realize that you do not have anger, resentment and grudge towards that person anymore and in fact in many instances you can feel love, patience and kindness.
In the Achieving Oneness with the Higher Soul workshop other methods are discussed that explain how to forgive other people in the Soul level and attain harmony and peace with all.
How to Forgive? Method 6
Do the Meditation on Twin Hearts
Meditation on Twin Hearts is a very powerful technique that not only gradually flushes out the negative thoughts, emotions and energies from the aura, but also develops and strengthens our Heart and Crown chakras.
Heart chakra is the center for Higher Emotions including peace, happiness, compassion and tolerance. When the Heart chakra gets activated and Solar Plexus chakra gets purified during the meditation you will feel more love and kindness towards yourself and other people. It is one of the best practices that not only shows how to forgive but also makes forgiveness as a part of life.
In the long run, Meditation on Twin Hearts improves your ability to forgive, forget and love people.
“One forgives to the degree that one loves.”
Francois de La Rochefoucauld
By filling your aura with the energies of love and peace, it further helps you attract the right people and more loving people in your life and therefore experience more harmonious relationships.
How to Forgive? Method 7
Apply Pranic Psychotherapy
Pranic Psychotherapy is one of the most advanced and effective techniques available today dealing with psychological issues. It uses high frequencies of energy to disintegrate and remove all the negative thoughts, emotions and energies from your aura and your chakras and then fills them with the energies of love and peace instead. It is therefore one of the fastest ways to remove anger and resentment from your aura and improve the quality of your relationships.
If you do not know how to forgive the people who have hurt you or just simply can’t, apply psychotherapy on yourself. It is not only fast, but also very effective.
Relationships in a brink of a breakdown can be saved by applying Pranic Psychotherapy on both partners.
“True forgiveness is when you can say, Thank You for that experience.”