3 Elements of a Happy and Healthy Relationship


Life is Beautiful!!!

“Life is a song – sing it. Life is a game – play it. Life is a challenge – meet it. Life is a dream – realize it. Life is a sacrifice – offer it. Life is love – enjoy it.”

Sai Baba

Life is full of colors, good and bad experiences and many lessons that each experience brings along to teach. Life is not a lonely sad story, but a song full of joy, friends and love. It all depends on us how to look at it and how to live it to the fullest.

Many people come to our lives and share some moments with us to reach a purpose, accomplish a task or finish an unfinished business; some stay longer and some go fast.

In such a short life that we have, it is good thus to try to get the most out of our moments of being together. It is not worthy living in pain, sorrow and loneliness, when all we need to improve the quality of our relationships is just three simple elements.





“Love is life. And if you miss love, you miss life.”

Leo Buscaglia

Love is the foundation of every relationship, which binds everything else together. In every relationship and encounter, love is the touch that attracts and connects. Often people get to attracted to the ones that have a big heart.

In order to receive love, the basic rule is that you need to give love first. It is impossible to send anger and hatred and expect the other person to love you back!

Give someone love and see how they bloom!

So start today. Give out love and see how love comes back to you. Love is in fact therapeutic. The reason behind many emotional and psychological problems of today is lack of love!

“Love is the food that will make your Soul grow.”

Master Choa Kok Sui

Love yourself as well as others. When you accept and love yourself, it will be easier to accept and love others. When there is so much love, criticism will be minimised automatically. So one of the means of attaining harmony in every relationship is to increase the love. With love, also comes respect.

“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.”

Lao Tzu





“True love is selfless. It is prepared to sacrifice.”

Sadhu Vaswani

With love, comes sacrifice. Love is just a good feeling. When love becomes an action, it manifests as sacrifice.

True love gives you the ability to sacrifice what you want, for the sake of what the other person wants. True love is selfless and gives without expectations.

When there is love in a relationship, there will be extreme openness and sacrifice, which strengthens the foundation of the relationship. Even if it starts with only one person sacrificing, in the long run it will penetrate and affect the other person as well. With love also comes responsibility and trust.

“Love always involves responsibility, and love always involves sacrifice.”

William Barclay

Sacrifice is basically for the sake of the union, which is far more important than one’s likes or dislikes. When one sacrifices selflessly, at that sacred moment, it does not matter if the other person comes to know or not, if he looses his pride or not or if he gets the blame or not. Sacrifice is a virtue that trains us to become selfless and act for the sake of a sacred virtue than for worldly desires.

“When you make the sacrifice in marriage, you’re sacrificing not to each other but to unity in a relationship.”

Joseph Campbell





“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.”

Mahatma Gandhi

There are times when relationships become sour and difficult. Forgiveness is the remedy. Let’s be realistic. No one is perfect and everyone make mistakes; so problems and arguments are unavoidable parts of every relationship. Inability to forgive and forget just makes us have a hard time. So the best way to get along with problems is to forgive, forget and learn the lessons!

“To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.”

Lewis B. Smedes

Forgiveness is not about who is right and who is wrong. It is a right thing to do by releasing the anger and resentment that makes us get boiling inside. Forgiveness is therapeutic. When someone is offended, he keeps on thinking about the offender and the unhappy experience over and over again, which leaves him angry, sad and often irritated. In fact resentment is one of the reasons behind many severe physical problems such as kidney failure. The key to escape from feeling unhappy is in fact forgiveness.

“Do not be unhappy. The past is the past! Let go, learn to Forgive and forget. Let Go and Go on Living!”

Master Choa Kok Sui

The bottom line is problems happen in every relationship. We have a choice to solve the problems and make the relationship better or escape to another relationship. The lessons won’t change until we learn and move on. Based on many people’s experiences, changing relationships simply doesn’t work, until the lesson is learnt!

As we can create disharmony and break a relationship, we also have the power to improve and strengthen the connection.

The choice is always ours!

1 Comment

  1. Daya January 6, 2014 Reply

    Atma Namaste MCKS………… Thanks for blessing my life with your love and guidance.

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