10 Things to Do before Committing to a Serious Relationship


Preparing Mentally & Emotionally!

Human needs develop as we grow with time. While, as a child we need an environment of comforting protection and unconditional love, as an adult we seek a feeling of self-actualization, creating one’s identity, being financially independent, and self-worth. This is the mental frame when, we ideally enter the phase of getting married and starting one’s family.

However, the frenzy around having a larger-than-life marriage, throwing a grand party (better than anyone ever has) and all such petty things have somehow demeaned the very purpose and motivation of marriage which, in its true sense, is Union of two souls who enter this institution to empower each other, support one-another and embark a spiritual journey of walking towards the sublime path together. It doesn’t matter if both the partners have different life goals as long as they share a common purpose of enriching one-another’s lives.

We all have check-list of things to do as an arrangement for our Big Day, so let’s have a check-list of things to do before getting finally hooked.

Serious Relationship 01

Know Yourself

We all know ourselves in every other terms but, we barely understand our true selves.

Who are you without all the compulsive social masks?

What’s the real purpose of your life?

What do you want to achieve?

Spend time with yourself, knowing yourself. You can’t even imagine sharing your life with a person without completely knowing yourself first.

Serious Relationship 02

Be Individualistic, not just Independent

We often misinterpret the term “Independence” with “Individuality”.

Financial independence, no doubt is the stepping stone of one’s life and the first step to embrace one’s individuality but the latter has more to do with one’s personality. An individualistic person is someone with a mind of his own who, doesn’t get affected by opinion of others, who evaluates things properly before following. In Pranic Healing, this is called Accurate Perception and Correct Expression.

You also need to take charge of your own actions and behaviours. It is easy to always put the blame on others. An individualistic person is responsible!

Serious Relationship 03

Have a Start-Up Venture

You may or may not have a stable job, risk a part of your investment in your dream venture. This will help you step out of your comfort zone and definitely help you learn some substantial life-lessons.

The nature of business might be small but your effort to make it work is what counts. Who knows it might prove to be the risk worth taking?

This also gives you a feeling of self-worth and confidence, as you will no longer be dependant on others to provide with with necessities of life.

Serious Relationship 04

Learn the Basics

You might be an independent, strong-willed female but some prerequisites are inescapable. For example cooking! Not a must but ideally one should learn cooking.

It’s not an old-school philosophy but it’s a part of embracing your femininity being independent. Cook for the sheer joy of it not as a mandatory burden.

Serious Relationship 05

Have a Heart-Break and Stand Up

There can’t be an award, or badge bigger than a mended heart. A broken-heart will teach you more than any guidelines you have ever adhered to.

Take risks! Taste failure! A failed relationship or a career-option can teach you a lot. Have a broken heart and mend it with your will, dust off the things that let you down, learn a lesson and start afresh! Spot the failure as badge not as bruises to hide.

But make sure you repair your broken heart before committing to a new relationship. Take care of the unfinished emotional business! Don’t let your previous failures, affect your current relationship.

Serious Relationship 06

Take Time Out for Your Hobby

Before you end with pile of responsibilities that entails a married life indulge whole-heartedly in your favorite hobby. Be it photography, playing a musical instrument, or your favorite sport.

Never take your leisure interests for granted, cultivate your skills and take serious time out for the things that makes you happy.

Even after marriage, make sure you allocate time for your hobbies. Don’t let marriage take away what makes you happy and leave you bitter and bored.

Serious Relationship 07

Live with Your Family

Many of us while, pursuing higher education or a job have to stay away from home. During this phase we have a lot of personality, and lifestyle developments that our family aren’t aware of, and vice-versa.

However we must spend time home with our family to know them better, to kindle the adjustable nature in us. When we live with our parents not only we have the pleasure of their unconditional love and affection but also we get to learn from their vast life experiences. Their career life and marriage life are the best book to learn from.

Serious Relationship 08

Cultivate a Spiritual Inclination

Though Spirituality is a widely accepted school of thought it’s also one of the most misinterpreted terms.

Spirituality is not limited to mediation it’s a way of living. When we dive in the sublime bliss of spirituality our way of looking at things transforms. Our approach towards life changes.

Our mind gets calmer which makes our vision and way of life better. Such frame of mind and outlook helps one deal with the difficulties of adjustment that one has to face post marriage.

Serious Relationship 09

Spend Time at an Old-Age Home

Not only will this reap better karma but it also helps us understand life. When we visit the old-age home, spend time listening to their stories to get better perspective about life. It makes us realize and understand how we want to live and end our lives. While buzzing with energy of youth, most of us don’t care sparing a thought that we are going to age at some point in our lives.

Marriage is a new phase of life if we begin with such retrospective realization of how do we want our old age to be. With such realization, our married lives would be much different.

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Read on Up-Bringing

Sooner or later we all want to start our family after marriage but a very important thing we conveniently skip is sparing a thought on the very essential process, upbringing. Most of us delay this for the later years of marriage when we actually start planning a baby.

However, if we are already clear about what kind of parents we want to be it will help and prepare us before-hand as parenting is not an overnight process. One needs to work on being a responsible parent, right from the beginning in terms of values as well as monetarily. Also, this makes you have a clear vision as to how you want to live your life with your partner before having children.

Marriage doesn’t begin with the grand marriage ceremonies and parties, the real marriage begins post honeymoon. When one actually start living life. Hence, let’s not get carried away by the idea of being Queen and King on our big day. Let’s prepare ourselves mentally and emotionally before entering the institution of marriage.


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